YOU CREATE
Your Reality
How Our Beliefs Help or Hinder Us
Along with our thoughts and feelings, our beliefs create our reality. With everything going on in the world, this statement might not seem true. But, I promise you–-we have a lot more power to create our reality than we often think. Because our thoughts, feelings and beliefs affect how we navigate through life and the decisions we make, they have a huge impact on our quality of life.
Let’s return to beliefs. We all grow up with beliefs about ourselves and the world. For example, you might have been born into a family that believed:
- Life is a struggle.
- There is never enough money.
Then, you might have developed some specific beliefs about yourself:
- I have to prove I’m good enough.
- I’ll only be okay (worthy) if I earn enough money.
Questions to Consider:
- What beliefs did you inherit from your family about life, money, and how children (or girls) are supposed to behave?
- What specific beliefs do you have about yourself?


We get to choose what we believe
When we choose to believe that we are enough, we can experience the freedom of being our authentic selves.
If limiting beliefs are a part of your foundation, they likely influence your internal compass and how you interpret the world. These beliefs affect the way you think and feel on a regular basis. These beliefs are also the springboard for stories, (sometimes very detailed and imaginative ones!) about yourself and your life.
Let’s imagine you have the beliefs, life is a struggle. I have to prove I’m good enough. Each time you experience hardship or challenge in relationships, at work, or while navigating your daily life, these beliefs are reinforced. And, if your first jobs didn’t pay well and you had difficulty paying your bills, you would have been reminded of the family axiom, there is never enough money.
From these beliefs, you would see the world through the lens of scarcity and struggle, perhaps with the story, I will never have what I want because I don’t earn enough money. I must not be good enough. Because your thoughts and feelings reflect these stories and beliefs, you could experience pessimism, helplessness, frustration, resentment, and anxiety. In this way, your stories would trap you in a cycle of low frequency emotions and prevent you from experiencing the life you long for.
Questions to Consider:
- What are the most common stories you tell yourself about your life?
- How do your feelings correlate with these stories?


The most dangerous stories we make up are the narratives that diminish our inherent worthiness. We must reclaim the truth about our lovability, divinity, and creativity.
So, what do we do?
We change how we interact with ourselves and the world by changing our beliefs and our stories. The first step is to identify the fundamental negative beliefs and stories you have about yourself and the way the world works. Naming these beliefs and exposing them to the light of day diminishes the fear and shame that infuse them.
Next, get quiet, still, and open your heart. And breathe. Then, ask your heart to help you re-discover your truth, who you really are at your core. Bring this truth to the surface and create new, empowering beliefs about who you are and how you be in the world. Write down these beliefs and post them where you can see them. Now, say them every day!
In my own life, I have shifted from believing that I’m unwanted and unworthy to believing, I belong. I have important gifts to share. From this space, I create peace and happiness for myself and those around me. Part of my story is now, I have a valuable role to play in serving the beings of this planet. What an impactful difference it has made to change what I believe and what I tell myself! This shift has helped me create a new reality–one filled with joy, trust, and compassion for myself and humanity. What new, truth-filled beliefs will you embody? What new reality do you want to create for you and your loved ones?
Questions to Consider:
- How do your stories and beliefs hinder you?
- What would life be like if your beliefs about yourself were based in worthiness and love? How would you interact with life differently?
